Black Mental WellnessWhen Life Hits Hard: Talking to Your Kids About Your Illness
Guest Contributor:
Angela Body, LCSW, NSW-C
When diagnosed with a chronic, or terminal illness, most individuals are so afraid and confused that they are barely able to hold their head above water. Clients have shared that receiving a diagnosis of chronic illness is like being knocked off your feet, “literally.”
Many individuals withdraw from their spouse, kids, extended family members, friends and co-workers. Others maintain their lifestyle, experience some form of denial (which is a defense mechanism) and go through their day-to-day tasks without speaking about their condition.
Your child may notice changes in your behavior and/or physical health. Your child may become anxious, present with behavioral changes, sleeping issues, or nightmares.
Family members may step in to assist, but nothing compares to the bond between a child and their parents.
Please understand that this may not be the experience for most, however, historically, individuals can take several months to adjust.
Here are some helpful tips!
Be truthful. Speak with your child(ren) as soon as you are able.
Ask your child about any fears or concerns she/he may be experiencing.
Try not to make any drastic changes to their daily routine.
Set up an appointment to speak with your child’s teacher. Your child’s teacher can notify you of any emotional or behavioral changes they may be experiencing.